ze ze boy in car. So natural and cute.

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mommy esther & baby Teagan. Love u baby Love u mommy...

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Look at this cheeky baby who is also a foodie like the rest of his family. We shall call ourselves 'the Foodie 4" Dino, Esther, Terry & Teagan. :)))

Nowadays, when we eat, he also must have something to eat.. otherwise he will just bang the table and scream for justice. Look how he behave with and without food given to him.

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some more photos to share..... =D
Presents from Aunty susan hand-made by herself. Cool ya.

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More pics to share... :D

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Dino's birthday 6 Aug 2008. (36 years old liao ! still look young and handsome la...hahaha) Sayang Daddy dino. From Terry & Teagan.
Mommy also sayang you.. if you tink your daddy & mommy dont sayang you it's ok. God says YOU ARE VERY SPECIAL IN HIS EYES. Your wife, your 2 sons love you so much. Aunty Susan also loves you.. she even bothers to bless you with a Birthday Present early in the morning on 6 AUG 2008. Dino & Esther went to celebrate at NO SIGN BOARD restaurant in Vivo City in the evening. We ordered Chilli Crab, Honey chicken, Stir fried Spinach and Prawn roll. Emmmm.... Yummy Yummy ! its so delicious and satisfying. But we feel sorry that we didnt bring the 2 boys along, especially Terry as he loves to eat crab. Daddy Dino is also a Crab lover..thats why we choose to eat at NO SIGN BOARD who is famous for their Chilli Crabs. I told Dino, if he enjoy this dinner, we can make it our celebration venue for all our birthday or anniversary celebrations. haha. We did not bring my in - laws along because my mother in law is not suppose to take such food for her condition now..otherwise we would have brought them along for dinner as what we used to do sometimes. After Dinner, we went to shop shop awhile and I bought 3 packs of D24 & Sultana Durians at only 28 bucks from Giant. After that we fetch Terry & Teagan from Aunty Susan's house at 8 pm plus, went to pick up a birthday cake from Bengawan Solo at Pioneer Mall and at the same time brought Terry to see doctor as he was coughing quite badly. But the doctor's clinic was so packed...mommy esther suggested to bring him to doctor next morning instead. Enjoy the pics displayed here !

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Having this blog in the 1st place is to share our joy of having the 2 precious boys God has given to me & dino but I think what I am going to share at this very point of time is something very different. It's not something very pleasant but it helps to ease the pain of our disappointments we received from my husband very own immediate family member. Even our elder boy who is only 8 year old is mature enough to feel the anguish of this incident.

Recently my mother in law was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer and need to go for chemotherapy treatment. When we heard of this, our (dino & I) 1st reaction was to suggest to her to have a 2nd opinion before she proceed with the treatment because earlier the doctor told her it was 1st stage and then she had the lump removed too, it was only after the operation, the dignosis become stage 3. Our intention is for her to find out more as it is quite unbelieving and we do not want to see her suffer from the painful side effects of chemo. I have heard from my colleague that her dad had recently just gone for chemo and I could understand how much he had gone through and even obtain as much information as possible from her on what could be done to help her and to ease the pain and discomfort of the side effects that she might be facing. However, her 2 daughters and her husband disagreed and strongly felt that it is not necessary for her to seek any 2nd opinion but instead to just proceed with the chemo treatment as advised by her doctor. Well we just leave the decision to them as we do not want to be mistaken for any reasons of asking her to seek a 2nd opinion then.

2 weeks ago, her 1st chemo session started.It was a Monday. Prior to the treatment, the doctor had already pre-warned us that anyone in the family who is having flu or cough during her chemo session period must try to avoid going near to her, especially young children as they are very prone to cough or flu as all chemo patients has zero immunity. So we took note of that. Co-incidentally, dino was quite sick with flu & sore throat during the week when his mom when for her 1st chemo session and I was also still recovering from my cough. So during the 1st day of her chemo, we did not visit her at her home, but when I pick my 2 boys from her neighbour "aunty susan" house, I did pop by to see how is my mother-in law feeling and before that, when I called my father in law in that afternoon when they just left the hospital, he told me "she is very fine and no discomfort at all leh". However, in the evening, I went to see her to ask how is she feeling and I could see her looking quite pale..so I told her to have a rest and I go home to cook dinner for my husband and my boy. Her daughter was there and she did not come out to say a word to me though..but it's absolutely fine to me. My father in law came out of the house and told me, if dino is not well, you tell him tomorrow he don't need to come to the house because he is afraid that he might spread the flu or sorethroat to my mother in law so I told my father in law, ok I will let him know..and I also told him that this week, I will cook myself, you take good care of mother as I believe she will be quite weak and need to have a good rest, and he agrees.

Then Tues I went to see her again after work and also called her during the afternoon to see how is she feeling. Dino also called his mother to ask how is she feeling and told her he is sick so he won't be going to her house. On Wednesday, I also called her in the morning because I could'nt find her at home in the morning when I intended to spend some time with her that morning before I go to work but she has left to buy vegetable at the organic farm together with her daughter, (I called her and asked where is she as I did not expect her to go out because she was suppose to avoid going to the public as her immunity is zero, and she told me she is feeling much better when I asked her how come she go out). In the evening, when I reached aunty susan's home, I thought of passing the Organic Moisturising lotion to my mother in law and I met her elder son-in law at the lift downstair, so I passed it to him to pass to my mother in law and did not walk over because I was bit tired and wanted to quickly go home and cook dinner and do my housework. Thursday I called her and also went over to see her again in the evening for a while before I go back to cook dinner. Friday, Dino & I were late so we did not went over as it's already late and Aunty susan had brought the 2 boys down to wait for us. My mother also has called my mother in law to ask how is she feeling on one of the days. On Sat, I spoke to my mother in law over the phone and she mentioned she is feeling much better. Dino called her also after that. Sunday we knew her daughter is there and we did not call or visit her because Sunday is my own family day.

Then the following week, Monday 4 Aug, evening, I smsed my sister in law to ask how things with her as I could sensed that she seems quite moody lately and busy with her business. Dino & I remembered she mentioned to us that during Dino's birthday let's organise something as in going out for a meal. I smsed her to say its ok no need to organise anything as dino & I intended to have a simple celebration on our own as it falls on a weekday anyway and we both are working. She rudely replied "when did I mentioned that ? I think he heard wrongly"..and in her next sms, she told us off to "visit mother more often and to think of her feelings sometimes".
I was stunned and annoyed by her sms and replied her "Since when we did not visit her?"

She then answered back with all she wanted to say (think she must have kept it in her heart for long time) and told us that we do not care for her parents and we always think we are right, etc, we always do things our ways and that is none of her business, etc, and told me to becareful with my words when I told her to "wake up her idea" and told her to "think before she talk" and I told her not to jump into conclusion without communicating. She answered back and told me that I am very rude, etc and I replied her I am pissed off by her attitude too and she is very disappointing just like her sister (someone who refuse to communicate with me & her brother - anyway, for this person, I dont want to comment much as I have given up hopes on rebuilding the relationship as it is useless and hopeless anyway)

I was so shocked that she mentioned I was standing outside the door or her brother is downstair from far etc that week when her mother went for the chemo. I did not expect her to think that just because that whole week we did not go inside the house, she jump into such conclusion. I personally feel that anyone in the "right mind" will be able to understand the reasons, or if not, can just walk to the door, and say, come in la, or why dont come in ? rather than to be so sensitive and jump into conclusion without finding out the reasons. But the thing is..don't she has a brain to think why we did not go into the house, if I dont care for her mother, I would have just gone home straight without bothering to walk over to see her for awhile. She don't even have the brains to analyse that I have to go home and cook dinner and attend to daily household chores and my 2 boys. (1 of them is just a 8mth plus old baby who need to be taken care by ourselves in the evening). What is she talking ????? She is still childless.. so I doubt maybe thats why she couldnt understand. She even says where is brother, never see him call mom or visit mom? Did you all see how she vomit, giddy,etc ? (I replied her.. do you mean we have to be there to see her vomit and how giddy she is then you are happy is it ?)

Frankly I was very annoyed by her attitudes and I told her why can't she just call and talk to us instead of having wild thoughts and tell us what to do. I told her we know we have done our part, and it is necessary for dino & I to talk to her parents about it to resolve the misunderstanding, and she is so rude and unreasonable in telling me that 'there's nothing to talk, if we think what we do is enough then let it be, etc" I told her that since she cant understand, then there is no point and useless for me to talk to her..and anyway she can jollywell call her own brother to talk if she is unhappy.. (Readers ! Do u think I am right or wrong ?)

I was totally pissed off by her and dino was also very disappointed about this incident. Even our son Terry who is only 8 year old is mature to know what is happening and consoled me by saying..."mommy, are u hurt ? dont be sad..just forget about these people and erase them out of our memory". I answered him.. I AM NOT HURT..its ok..cause these people do not know WHO IS THEIR SOURCE..they like to simply talk and accuse people and jump into their own conclusion..the best is to LEAVE THEM ALONE and move on.. There are more IMPORTANT things in life then all these nonsense. We prayed together and after that we all really felt better and we decided to talk to dino's mother about this incident the following day as we both accompany her to NUH for blood test for diabetes as she need to see doctor the following week.

My mother in law always talk in a way that she understands our point and she do not feel that we are bad son and daughter-in law..but we are very disappointed that why she and my father in law can never have a word with her daughter to advise her that she is not suppose to behave in this manner. Whatever it is, we need to communicate. Our intention in telling her what had happened between her daughter and us is to let her know that her daughter is accusing us of not showing concern to her and very unhappy with us and we want her to know that it's her daughter who is trying to create problems..so she ought to know what is going on. We know her daughters are very filial. We know they shower their parents with expensive gifts and monetary possessions unlike us who only give them some token of finance on a monthly basis and buying things that are not as expensive as what they have bought. If people want to compare the amount of money given and value of gifts given, there's nothing we can do as we have done our part and we do not believe in relationships or "love" that is built on money anyway. In our opinion, Dino has done his best. We give our mother in law $600 every month. She started helping to look after our baby Teagan since Jan 2008 and until mid June, she has to go for operation, so she suggested that we let her neighbour "Aunty Susan" to help us look after Teagan until Dec 2008 as her daughter-in law will be giving birth next Jan. We agreed with her and stop looking for other baby sitter as we know that my in laws is worry that Teagan might not be comfortable with a stranger if we find him a new babysitter. We also have the thought that if Aunty Susan look after Teagan, they will still get to see him at least from MONs to FRIs..and we know they love our children so of course we want them to have a chance to see the 2 boys even when my mother in law is sick and need to go for chemo.

By the way, during the week of her chemo, my son Terry went over to see his grandmother without me telling him to do so. My dear boy told me he went over to see how his grandmother is feeling and "pei" her. I am so proud of my boy who is so loving and sensible. In fact, Aunty Susan told me that few weeks ago, before my mother in law started her chemo, she was still trying to accept the bad news of her sickness, she sometimes cried, and my son Terry even consoled her by telling her, "AH MA, you dont cry..if you cry, I will be very sad(Keksim), you must try to take it easy, and positive...then you will recover fast". I was really very touched and proud of him when Aunty Susan told me how good Terry was.

Anyway, after talking to my mother in law, we know she will not do anything about it..as it seems that both my inlaws are always defending their 2 "rich" daughthers..maybe they are afraid that they may get angry and love them lesser or whatever. From this Dino & I just have to conclude that : May be they think we have alot of money but we dont care about them. and we only willing to spend on ourselves. and we are selfish people and don't care other's feelings.
Whatever they want to think, let them be. We dont have to explain to anyone. We just want my mother in law to know what is going on. That's all.

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