2 weeks has passed....both ah gong & ah ma didnt even call up my dad or mum to find out whether I am adapting well to the new babysitter. I wonder why they can just leave us alone without showing any concern to me and ge ge their grandchildren. Mommy say...it's ok..daddy should still bring me & ge ge to visit them anytime when he is free (but these 2 weeks daddy is so busy with work..he has some projects on hand)..but daddy says no need. Cos he was quite hurt by ah gong and ah ma the last time he popped by to pass them pocket money. They said some nasty words which hurt him and he was quite annoyed and did not expect them to behave in this manner. sigh..

remember in our last posting we mentioned that too bad we cant post the 2 letters here as it was typed in chinese and the other one is hand-written. Thank God my mom managed to "copy and paste". Want to see the letter which my mum wrote to ah gong the last time. here it goes...

Father,本来我是打算保持沉默，可是看在你是我家翁，我才决定写这封信给你。

你是个有智慧，有分析和判断能力的人，相信您会明白我这封信的含意和目的。

请允许我写信来让您了解我必须让您知道我非常难过，因为我实在对你的太太，我的家婆非常失望。 对我来讲，你们的女儿永远是对的。我们死都要忍还是让。

对不起，我不知如何因该怎样和你们这种思想的一家人相处。我们的思想完全不同。 因为可能我在你们眼里是一个喜欢惹事情的坏息妇。我以经做了最坏的打算。我随时可以让你们全部都认为我是一个不孝的息妇。我无所谓的。因为人在做，天在看。上天知道我是怎样的人就足够了!

原本我想不如做个闲人，睁一只眼闭一只眼，像你们这样,什么都不谈也不管，就可以和睦共处。但是，上次你的孝顺宝贝女儿来责备我们，我们跟你们讲出来希望可以把误会说清楚我们也算了。可是，她并没有就此罢休，我只能说她这个人是没有度量，到现在还一直怀恨我，把我当仇人看待。 请原谅我提醒一下你和MOTHER 如果你们的宝贝女儿不来无原无故责备我们，那天我们会向你们题起这件事吗？不过请问你们到底清不清楚是谁开始惹出这些“小事情”的呢？即然你们叫我们算了，我们也不再提了。

可是，当你的女儿接我打给 MOTHER 的电话的时候，她为何要用这么恶劣的态度对我呢？(这件事情发生了两次，一次是拜6一次是拜2。她接到我打来找MOTHER 的电话她不叫我，我是无所谓的，不过我却有叫她的名字阿娇，帮我叫MOTHER 听电话。可是她连一句“等一下”也不愿意啃，这样对吗？最多我当她是没有基本礼貌的读书人。但是 最让我感到痛心的是， 当我问 MOTHER 为什么阿娇接我的电话也不应我， 我没想到MOTHER 尽然会回答我说因为你们的宝贝女儿不懂是我打来的！！！ 这很明显，不管怎样MOTHER 都是会袒护自己的女儿也不管娶进来的媳妇的感受的。 我原本想这个拜2或拜3晚上不要煮饭，在外面吃了来陪MOTHER 一下，但是我被她明显袒护女儿的那句话感到彻低的失望与心痛。请问你们如果你的女儿的家婆也这样明显袒护自己的女儿，你们会有什么感受呢？

我和丰义都不明白你们做父母的这样每一次都要你们的儿子和媳妇容忍这些无理娶闹的人，请问\这是什么道理？？难道每一件事情都是我们惹的吗？ 难道你们的24孝宝贝女儿一点都没有错是吗？ 如果您老人家的答案还是那句话“不要管”， 还是“算了”， 还是“忍”，非常抱歉， 这不是我本人的原则，态度及处事方式范围里能够作到的。

你们疼女儿决对没错，可是你们从来不用公平的方式来决绝问题的存在。请原谅我必须很坦白的发表我的感受。

即然你们在乎嫁出去的女儿多过我这个唯一的媳妇，我无话可说。那么以后我不上你家因该不是一个问题吧？？ 不过你们放心，我跟丰义讲了，他是你们的儿子,以后他带你们的两个孙子上你家就行了。 我想你们是不会在乎我有没有来的。

我是有想过在这个时候不应该说出心里的话，我也担心MOTHER 会因此受到刺激，可是请你们思考一下， 是谁先搞出这些事情的？ 是我还是丰义吗？ 我想你们可能还是觉得你们的女儿作得很对,所以你们是不可能会去劝她反省一下她自己对我们的态度的.

我和丰义都对你们的女儿24孝的性格赞不决口！ 因为我们承认我们是无法像她们好像在印钞票一样的。

该说的我都说完了。请别误会我要你们去责怪任何人. 很遗憾, 当了你们10 年的坏媳妇，我只能说你们跟本一点都不认识与了解我. 我今天只是想让你们真正了解我这个当媳妇内心的感受罢了。我也认为我有责任向你交代一声我以后不会上来你家的原因。因为我感觉我不在你们的眼里。由其是MOTHER 和你们的两个宝贝女儿.

我本来想让你们自己去想一想或自己猜测我不来的原因(因为反正你们不擅长沟通,而经常选择什么都不说)，可是我觉得跟你们坦白讲清楚 是我的责任也比较合理的。

不孝媳妇上

21.08.08

Note: my mummy purposely name herself "unfilial" as she knows that these people will eventually say that she is unfilial..and it doesnt matter to her at all. What matter most is what kind of person she is in God's eyes and in my daddy's eyes. Even ge ge Terry understands that whole situation. Mummy ask him to call ah ma he doesnt want to do so and he says it's unnecessary).

the other letter (handwritten) one,will be posted the next round. Readers do watch out for it ok.

Daddy was disappointed because both his parents do not seems to be fair and reasonable. They just keep insisting that xiao gu has done nothing. They simply don't bother that my mommy is being hurt and upset. The worst is ah gong still tell daddy that next time dont call if there's nothing. But he failed to understand and appreciate that mommy called ah ma to find out how is she feeling after the chemo as she knows she might be giddy or nausea.. the statement made by ah gong is really very hurting and nasty ! we are all very disappointed why they have to defend their daughter even when she is being rude. So, now daddy & mommy decided to forget about it and since daddy's parents dont even bother to call up and ask how are the kids adapting to the new babysitter...so it's better to leave things as it is. We shall just take it as a "persecution" by the family ! too bad.

Anyway thank you God for leading us to this wonderful babysitter "Mdm Wee" who is very fond of me and feed me very well and love me so much. She is so nice and loving to me.
She bought 2 lanterns for me and ge ge and brought us go kai kai sometimes. I enjoy being look after by her very much and ge ge too.

BELIEVING IN MIRACLES
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