Hi readers... mom has finally managed to type the handwritter letter for ah mah and now it can be posted here. She wrote the letter to ah mah with the intention to tell her not to be angry and told her to take good care of her own health while undergoing the chemo treatment.
She also just wanted to inform ah gong & ah mah that they have managed to find me and ge ge terry a new babysitter..and tried to explain why they need to change now to avoid any misunderstandings.
To daddy's horror, their reaction was horrible. Both of them blared at him fiercely while he popped by their place (mentioned in the last posting) as if he and my mommy has done anything sinful. Ah mah even told daddy not to listen to mommy in everything. what a joke ! As if my mommy is the one who created the mess. It's really sad that people fail to realise it's their own daughter's fault and still insisting that she has done nothing. Anyone in the right mind will agree that it is her daughter and ah mah who is creating all this mess now and even ah gong is so blind to make daddy feel that as though it's all his and mommy's fault. My goodness ! to be frank, Ah gong always scolded my brother terry that he has no wisdom. I think this incident will truely show who is the one who has no wisdom. hohoho.
We don't understnad why their reaction is like that. It only shows that they still refuse to admit it's their daughter who started the fire and keep on thinking that my daddy & mommy are trouble-makers. They still feel that their daughter, our “xiao gu" has done nothing. (they keep emphasizing on this statement) They simply just defend her blindly eventhough she is rude and purposely tried to hurt my mom by not saying a single word of "hold on" when my mommy called ah mah to find out how was she feeling. It's basic courtesy to tell the caller to "hold On" when a person picks up a call right ?? But ah mah told my mom off that her daughter dont know its my mommy who is calling. How can it be ? Who else will call her "mother" ?? She only has one daughter-inlaw. My mum even addressed her daughter by her name "ah keow" and how can it be she dont know??? dont lie or defend her la ! Even if she doesnt know, she still need to have the courtesy to say "HOLD ON" or "1 second" or "pls wait" or watever. Don't tell me that a 31 year old woman has any basic telephone manners ? Obviously she knows it's my mum who is calling, and she is still bearing grudges with her, so she purposely don’t bother to even say “hold on”.. what kind of attitude is this ? u can either call it childish or sick ! up to you readers. Hahaha
They still do not understand that my mommy is not upset just because of this. What upset my mommy the most is because of ah mah defending her daughter blindly without a good reason straight on her face and never spare a thought for my mommy's feelings. My mommy was very hurt by ah mah's unfair behaviour.
She is not angry at all. Too bad they dont understand. Anyway, my daddy understands and we all know everything.
Whatever it is now... Sorry and Sad to say.....this parents don't treasure their only son and 2 grandchildren (En & Ze). What else can we do but to just leave them alone.
Mother, 不好意思，我又写信给你是因为我不懂要如何开口。
我只是想告诉你，你好好的养病，不要为任何的事情生气或伤心。 我真的只是要让你知道，上次我是非常难过和伤心而已。 我根本没有生你还是阿娇的气。 我只是觉得我在你们家里，只是一个很小的角色，我没有权力生你们的气。 不过没关系，只要你们不要误会我和丰义要惹事情就够了。 其实我们是希望一家人好好沟通，家合万事兴。
过去的，我们不再提了。 现在我知道可能你还在气头上，我也不想打电话给你，避免让你生气影响你的身体。 你好好照顾身体，希望你早日康复。等你冷静下来了，我们会来探望你，好不好？
我也借此机会通知你们， 我们已经找到新的保姆顾阿恩和泽泽了。 九月一日开始。 因为反正 Aunty Susan 也是有问过我有没有打算请女佣。 不过我们也了解 father 不太赞成请女佣，所以我们只好请个保姆照顾两个小孩。 以后你的化疗和电疗完了，身体完全恢复后，我们才打算好吗？
对不起我的字写得很难看。因为现在已经半夜一点多了，我也很累了。
以后你们想念孙子，随时都可以打电话来或来我们家。你们也随时欢迎来看他们。
非常感谢你和 father这几个月帮我们照顾泽泽和阿恩。 真的是非常没有办法，你生病了，身体比较重要。 所以我们就只好找别人照顾他们。反正 Aunty Susan 也只能顾到年尾十二月。 我也担心泽泽越大越会认人，如果等多几个月才换人顾，怕他更难适应， 希望你们能了解。我也很怕在这个时候换人顾孩子，可能会引起我们之间有多一个不必要的误会，使到我们的感情更糟就不好了。我也想你们只有丰义这个唯一的儿子，希望你们父子和母子的关系好。
OK了我要去睡了。我再说一次，我只是那时很难过和伤心你说的话。 我一点都不生气。 伤心，心痛，难过，被伤到自尊心 是不同的。希望我们的误会能够解开好吗？
谢谢你读这封信。 晚安。 金娇
26/8/2008
I guess my mum has her every right to share all these "sad" events in our blog. In fact daddy & mommy are both wondering when ah gong & ah mah will call to ask how are the 2 kids..at least?
It's not my mum's intention to let you readers know how bad my grandparents and her daugher are. She needs to release her stress and sadness by blogging about it because this is actually very important matters in our family. My dad also agrees that she has the right to blog about it as he knows she has no other intention at all. We are just feeling disappointed that why daddy, being the only son of my grandparents are being ignored totally now by his own parents. The reason why he doesnt want to initiate to call them up is because of the last time he was badly lectured by them when he went over to their home. He says the moment he think of how they blared at him and how nasty their faces looked, he just simply cannot believe why his parents were behaving in that manner !
As for my mom, why would she call since they have made her feel that she has no position to talk at all and of course she has the right to choose not to be hurt again. In fact, she cried over this matter a few times and she is getting quite numb about it already.... sigh. My daddy keeps telling her don’t have to be sad over this anymore as it is not worth her tears.